Balance And Boundaries

I’ve been thinking about balance and boundaries this week. A lot of people assume I’m bad at balance because I do so many things, but I’m actually surprisingly good at it. I know this because I used to be awful.

When I worked in advertising I used to work a 70-hour week almost every week. I also had a commute that ranged between four and seven hours per day depending on where we were living; and I worked in an industry that required me to go out almost every night drinking. It was not a healthy way to exist.  Read more

Books of the Week: Psychotherapy, Writing, And Voodoo

This year’s reading list is mostly things I need to read for the various strands of my life, and this week’s pile was no exception. That’s not to say it’s no fun: these books are things I’d have chosen to read anyway, and sometimes it’s nice to have a bit of direction. This week’s list consisted of one book for uni, and three books that counted as research for the novel I’m writing.  Read more

How Do I Fit It All In? Six-Month Roundup

A few months ago, tired of people going “How do you fit it all in?!”, I started a blog series to answer that exact question. It was partly for other people but also partly for me; I wasn’t sure how I fitted it all in either. The answer used to be “I barely sleep” but these days I’m often in bed by 8pm, sometimes significantly earlier, so I knew it wasn’t that.

But apparently I still manage to live many lives and do loads of things. So how do I do it? This week marks week 21 of my ‘How Do You Fit It All In?’ series so I thought I’d go back through them and work out if there’s a direct answer to that question.  Read more

Where Do You Write?

Each person’s writing process is different, which is why you still might fail to write a book even if you’re following all the advice you’ve found on people’s blogs. So much of writing life, and freelance life, and life in general, is finding what works for you. And that might be very different from what works for someone else.

A lot of freelancers like coworking spaces because it helps them not to get lonely, for example. Personally, I don’t get lonely. I can’t remember ever having the feeling. So I don’t do coworking, because about 80% of why I’m a freelancer is so that I don’t have to talk to Other Humans all day.

Recently, however, I have discovered that a change of scenery from time to time can be helpful. So I haven’t started coworking, but I have started working from the garden centre café.  Read more